On “Planning” Children**

I am not sure if you all have picked up that we are what some call “providentialists” when it comes to planning our family. That means, we do not, but God does. We do not do anything to avoid pregnancy, but we do not go out of our way to make as many babies as possible either. There has to be a lot of trust in God that He will not give us more than we can handle, but to also know that He will give us the graces, if we accept them, to handle all that he gives us.

This is a lot easier said than done sometimes. As I read in another blog a few weeks back, it is easy to be open to life during the day time, but in the middle of the night it is a pretty scary thought. Yes, I have doubts sometimes, I wonder “What will people say? Will we be able to support another child? Will I be able to endure another first trimester with four little ones? Can I handle another labor?” The answers to those are: “Who cares? Of Course! Yes! Yes!” However, I look outside and see the sun shining and my kids are getting along well. If I were posting this in the middle of the night or they were fighting, I would begrudgingly give the same answers.

It is in those dark times that I seek out wise women who have been in our place and saints who have addressed motherhood but most of all, God because without Him, I am nothing.

With all that being said, I have put together a few links and quotes for my reference and, if you like, yours also. (I have to thank my friend Suzanne for posting a few of these links and inspiring me to write this post.)

“That special power of loving that belongs to a woman is seen most clearly when she becomes a mother…Yet we can destroy this gift of motherhood, especially by the evil of abortion, but also by thinking that other things like jobs or positions are more important than loving, than giving oneself to others. No job, no plans, no possessions, no idea of “freedom” can take the place of love.” ~ Mother Theresa

Five Things That Are Worse Than Being in Debt

The Poverty of Inconvenience

St. Josemaria Escriva

**Yes, I realize this post has the tone that an announcement may soon be made about the expansion of our family, no such announcement is forthcoming as of yet**

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Monday Musings

Right now…7:00 pm,  dark and cool outside. The dishwasher is running and Joshua is reading a book to the kids. Benedict is sleeping next to me on the couch.
This weekend..on Saturday we hung around the house, relaxing. I was supposed to fold laundry, but had no desire to do so. I am okay with that. I am okay with it sitting, clean in baskets. Instead of folding laundry, we conferred with a friend to set up a blog, more about that later! I did some searching for a Family Doctor for our family and found one via the One More Soul website. He is in Tallahassee, an hour and a half a way, BUT he does not prescribe birth control and knows the Creighton Model of NFP. We don’t chart or anything, but that is the NFP we learned when we were first engaged. I have to call tomorrow to set up a physical appointment for myself. I am so excited about find him.

Also on Saturday, I went to the craft store and picked up a crochet hook. I started to use it, but the video I picked on line to watch wasn’t very helpful. It started in the middle of a lesson. I was not able to look up another one though. We also cooked out on Saturday night, hamburgers!

Sunday was Mass then home. We came home, had lunch, then put away Christmas. Now the kids are asking if it is Easter, like every five minute! It is bare in our living room, but looks nice. I pulled out a few things to place on the piano, so it looks a bit more homey in here.

We also made our way through four of the Star Trek movies this weekend too, ’cause as you might know, we are all geeks!
Some plans for the week: Work on addition and subtraction with Karol, make a doctor appointment and work on things for Vianney Vocations.

Special prayer intentions: The men studying at the Pontifical College Josephinum, as they begin their spring term this week.

If I find a little time for myself: Practicing crocheting some more!

Something that makes me smile: A sleepy Benedict…I forgot to mention that he slept from 10-ish last night to 530 this morning! I was in bed by 11 and woke up just before he did.

For more musings, check out this Patch O’ Dirt!

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Pope John Paul II to be Beatified*!

Oh what wonderful, happy, joyous news! Our beloved Pope John Paul II will be Beatified on the Feast of Divine Mercy. Since Karol is named after our former Holy Father, we will most certainly have to have a big celebration.

Say it with me: “Juan Pablo Segundo te quiere todo el mundo!”

*Edited because I really do know how to spell Beatified, really*

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Just for Clarification…

Karol’s birthday was last week and his baptismday was on Monday. Margaret was born a year later on the same date as his baptismday and her baptismday is today! It is a busy week for all of us!

Did I mention I forgot Karol’s baptismday until we were half way through celebrating Margaret’s birthday? All was good though, I was prepared for it, I just had forgotten that day.

Today we took the kids out to dinner. I am glad it was more of a fast food type place and it wasn’t that busy because my kids were horrible. I guess it had to happen sometime, they have been really good lately at most places. Note to self: Caecilia still needs to be in a high chair, buckled in.

Today was also Margaret’s first time riding in a booster seat. I better parent would have taken pictures, I was just proud that I had all the kids ready to go when Joshua got home from work, I didn’t even think about pictures.

And that list I had earlier, of things to do. Well, ha ha ha, I swept the living room three times today, as well as once around the rest of the house, I washed diapers and bathed Caecilia and Benedict. The dishes are still in the dishwasher, but that is not a big deal to me. I did make those neat montages of the kids for their birthdays (albeit a bit late)!

Now I am working on things for Vianney Vocations and hoping to head to bed in one hour and ten minutes.

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Long List….

…I have a long list of things to do today and absolutely no desire to do any of it. Does anyone want to come down to Georgia (highs this weekend will be in the 60s) and do some chores for me? Pretty please. I will even organize them for you, so you know what need to be done first!

1. Wash diapers (not as gross as it sounds, really)

2. Fold laundry that has been sitting in a basket for a week.

3. Sweep/mop kitchen floor

4. Sweep living room.

5. Unload dishwasher

6.Put sheet back on to the beds in the kid’s room.

This list really isn’t that bad, I may actually get it accomplished today as I won’t be making dinner tonight. (Zaxby’s is on the menu per Margaret’s request for Chicken Nuggets and French Fries for her Baptismday Dinner).

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Monday Musings

Right now…10:06 am, rainy and cool. No, we have not gotten the snow and ice that I am sure you have all heard Georgia is getting. Nope. we are about 45 minutes south of where the jet stream is resting, so we have 42 degrees and rain. The town where our Parish is has a “Winter Storm Warning” for ice! Today is Margaret’s 4th birthday and requested watching Dr. Doolittle this morning. It is the old version and she loves it so much, so I put it on and we had breakfast while watching the movie. It is still on, so I am watching parts of it with them.
This weekend..was par for the course for the Facemyer family. We ran errands, rested, cleaned and watched movies. The only different thing added in was dinner with the Borja family.  They live a few towns over and are friends of our friends the Shiekos, so we finally decided to get together and hang out. I am sure we overwhelmed them but we had a great time. There aren’t many Catholics in this part of the world, so meeting another young Catholic family is wonderful! (statistic, in the diocese of Savannah, there are 2.8 million people and of those people, 73,649 are Catholic, a small small number)

Our errands on Saturday involved buying a booster seat for Margaret! Yeah, no more carseat for her! We are going to retire her old one to the garbage as it is quite old and very ratty. It was a hand me down from Joshua’s sister and I think she used it with all of her kids, meaning it is close to 10 years old! I also found a new pair of dress shoes. My old ones are still functional and nice, but they are sort of dated, and my style of dress has changed a bit since I bought them too, so I needed something that fit more in with my current style. I will probably alternate between the two though.

We also looked for a new umbrella stroller. The wheels on ours are pretty much dead and it is so hard to push it. I also would like to find something that is a bit taller in the handles. I wonder, I am not that tall, but I have to hunch over to push each one that I have ever used, are there any made for tallerish people? Also, how do fathers push them?

On Sunday we organized the back room again. We don’t have a shed or much storage space in this house, so a lot of the extra things have just been tossed back there. However, that room is also the first room that people see when they come to the house, so, even though things were sort of neat in there, it most certainly wasn’t inviting. We set up another shelf and put a few things in bins, and while it isn’t perfect, it is much better. We made a sitting area out there too, with our patio furniture, so maybe that will be my quiet sitting area for reading.
Some plans for the week: To get back in to the swing of school. My goal is to be done with it by the end of March, so that we can enjoy spring here before it gets hot again.

Special prayer intentions: This week is National Vocation Awareness Week, so I am upping my prayers for the increase in religious and priestly vocations.

If I find a little time for myself: I would like to learn more about crocheting. Caecilia’s godmother made the cutest crocheted doll for her and I want to be able to do it. Mary (C’s godmother) also crocheted a wool diaper cover in like a day. A DAY! So I wonder, is it easier than knitting. I like to knit, but I am not one of those who can cast on, do a few rows then put it down, I have to concentrate about it and if I put it down, I have a hard time starting again. Then there is the issue of knitting needles and the kids loving to play with them. So I am going to read up about it. Perhaps a trip to the library is in order.
Something that makes me smile: watching Margaret dance in her seat while watching Dr. Doolittle.

For more musings, check out this Patch O’ Dirt!

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Sacred Music

Below, I have posted an  interview from the National Catholic Register regarding Sacred Music.  I have put in bold points that stand out to me and may be helpful for those who may belong to parishes where the music may be lacking or perhaps has guitars, drums or anything called a “Life Teen Band”.

Singing the Mass

The editor of Sacred Music talks about current trends in liturgical music, his conversion to the faith through Gregorian chant, and what to expect from the new Missal.

by TRENT BEATTIE 12/30/2010

Jeffrey Tucker thought he had heard it all in the world of music. Then he attended a chanted Mass.

Unlike the secular music he was used to, the simple chant he heard raised his mind and heart to God. This life-changing experience facilitated his conversion to the Catholic faith in 1985.

Unfortunately, he was disappointed with much of the music he heard in church. Tucker decided to do something about it. In 2002 he became a member of the Church Music Association of America, and has been the managing editor of the group’s journal Sacred Music since 2005.

Tucker is also editorial vice president of the Ludwig von Mises Institute, which bills itself as “the research and education center of classical liberalism, libertarian political theory and the Austrian School of economics.”

But as far as the Catholic heritage of music is concerned, the object of Tucker’s most recent enthusiasm has been the assemblage and distribution of a book of chants to correspond with the implementation of the new English translation of the Roman Missal later this year.
You’re a convert to Catholicism. How did your conversion occur?

Every time I tell the story, it is different. I recently realized why: Conversions are too big for full cognition. Too many influences hit us from too many directions to make sense of it all, and there is the element of the divine that surpasses consciousness. So I’m at the point of realizing that I do not and cannot know how or why it occurred.

However, I do know this: Music played a role. I had been a lifetime musician, playing in symphonies and jazz combos and everything in between. But there was something about hearing the Mass chanted with just a few small notes — by an older priest with a tired voice — that transformed me completely. I was about 22 years old and I had never heard anything so beautiful. The total absence of ego and the total absorption in a purpose beyond time enthralled me. I think that these notes unlocked my mind to understand and opened my heart to a kind of love I had never known. Looking back at it, those small notes had a more powerful effect than the shelves of books and the endless hours of studying the faith.

How did your newly-found interest in sacred music proceed from there?

That chant in Mass that I heard from the late Father Urban Schnaus at the Basilica of the National Shrine of the Immaculate Conception exposed me to something completely new, something words and argument alone could not express. The context mattered too: This wasn’t a music history class. It changed everything. My whole aesthetic outlook changed. Instead of looking for truth and beauty in the avant-garde, I found it in music that was unbound from the temporal world.

From the chant, I moved on to listen to Renaissance polyphony, in which I heard a level of sophistication that I did not hear in much modern music, which seemed strangely superficial and simple by comparison. It’s like comparing a medieval cathedral to a trailer home. Gradually, chant and polyphony took over my brain and hardly any other music mattered anymore.

Of course my fascination with it began as purely artistic, but when I realized that there was a reason for its structure and sound, my appreciation grew. I realized that it is all a form of prayer, and the musical structure amounts to an attempt by mortals to touch a realm of immortality. It was all an attempt to somehow capture and characterize what the ancients called the “music of the spheres,” which is something like a heavenly sound that might be worthy to be presented by angels at the throne of God. The composers and the tradition heard something true and beautiful and the liturgy absorbed it as its own.

It goes without saying that secular music doesn’t attempt this at all. It is designed to flatter the performers, indulge the composers, entertain the audience, or whatever. There is a place for this approach in the culture at large, but sacred music has a different purpose. To me, to begin to understand liturgical music is to realize this central point that appears in Christian writings from the earliest age: There is a difference between sacred and profane. Many people deny this today, which just amazes me. I consider it so axiomatic that it is not worth debating, only explaining.

Why do people deny it? It has something to do with an embedded agnosticism born of deconstructionist thinking. There is no intrinsic meaning in anything, this view says, so how can we really make such distinctions between what is sacred and what is not?
But you are more than a student or listener; you’re also a practitioner and a director.

I became interested in sacred music as a practitioner because the tragedy of its loss is so undeniably obvious to any practicing Catholic. Given our heritage, given what Catholicism has done artistically through the ages (we invented music notation, for example), given what Vatican II called the “treasury of sacred music,” it is shocking how absent it is from our parishes. But that’s only the beginning of the problem. The real core is the loss of the ideal, the near absence of an understanding that musicians have any serious responsibilities to the ritual. So far as I can tell, this is an unprecedented situation, and it cries out for change.

Many people have noted what a dramatic contrast the reality is from the hope of the Second Vatican Council, which called for the Gregorian tradition to assume first place at Mass. Many Council fathers hoped for a liturgical reform that would put an end to the pre-conciliar practice of vernacular hymnody dominating the Mass. They wanted to universalize the high Mass with music that is native to the ritual. It didn’t turn out that way, for a variety of reasons.

For many years, I sat by and wished someone would do something about the problem. Then one day I realized that I had a responsibility to step forward and do something myself. I realized that it is not just a matter of selecting the right stuff to sing, but there is training required and massive personal sacrifices are necessary. There were political, pastoral, and logistical obstacles to overcome, so the change would not be easy. It required an infrastructure and a long-term outlook.

Colleagues in the Church Music Association of America felt the same way. Under the leadership of Dr. William Mahrt, good things are happening. Really, a new renaissance is under way. Our annual colloquium trains hundreds of people each year and turns away as many as it accepts simply because there is not enough room.
What are the most common misconceptions about sacred music in the mind of the average Catholic?

I’m not entirely sure that the average Catholic is as confused as the nice people who attempt to provide music in our parishes from week to week. If you ask the average Catholic what kind of music is integral to our liturgy and ritual, most will mention Gregorian chant. They are right. The music of the Church was taking shape around the same time as the books of the Bible were being chosen; the faith and its music grew up and took shape together. Just as Scripture continues to speak to us today, the music of the faith speaks to us as well.

I find it striking that most non-Catholics imagine that our services are dominated by the kind of chant heard in movies and television. But the truth is that we do not hear it in our parishes. Why not? The musicians have not had their responsibilities explained to them. They do not know that the Church has assigned a specific and brilliant piece of music for every part of the Mass throughout the liturgical year. Not one in one hundred Catholic musicians know this. They’ve never heard of the Graduale Romanum, which is the music book of the Roman Rite. They’ve never been told that there are ideals that extend beyond a weekly game of English-hymn roulette.

People who do know about chant are often afraid of it because the notation is different and the language is different. The rhythm is different too. So it is with the rest of Catholicism. What we do is different from what the rest of the world does. We understand the need to train in doctrine and morals, but somehow we think that such training should not be necessary for liturgical music.

We have to realize that our music is of a special type, so it makes special demands on the musician. We should not permit any music to be used in Mass without some consciousness of what it is supposed to be about, any more than we should tolerate homilies that teach ideas contrary to the faith.
What are the goals of the Sacred Music journal?

Sacred Music is the oldest, continuously-published music journal in the English-speaking world. It is now on volume 137, if you can believe it. The goal is to publish scholarship, to provide news, to offer tutorials, to inspire and teach, and generally serve as a literary infrastructure for a burgeoning movement. It is going very well, but the digital presence of the sacred music movement has also been important. I’m very happy with how chantcafe.com is coming along. The forums at musicasacra.com are huge and essential, helping musicians every day. The ethos is starting to change.
Do you have any projects corresponding with the new missal translation which will begin to be in use in Advent 2011?

I’m so excited about this that I can hardly stand it. This is a chance for a new beginning with the ordinary form. The new translation is so much better, so much more beautiful. People will notice immediately, not just in the order of Mass but in all the celebrant parts, too. The chants are now embedded in the structure of the missal; this was not previously true.. We’ve already recorded all these chants on YouTube and made them available to every singer in the world for free.

But there is something even more important. It is called the Simple Propers Project. Some background: in 1969 the Consilium [the commission established to implement Vatican II’s Constitution on the Sacred Liturgy] stated definitively that it is not fitting that hymns should replace the propers of the Mass, that is, the antiphon text for the entrance, psalm or tract, offertory, and communion. Of course this statement is widely ignored today. The leap from silly songs to serious Gregorian chant is a bit large for most parishes, in part because we’ve lacked good resources to make the transition possible.

This is what the Simple Propers Project is all about. It is managed by Adam Bartlett of Phoenix, Ariz. He is writing melodies that anyone can sing for English-text versions of the propers, together with Psalms. The results are stunningly beautiful, and it will enable parishes to do what they should be doing. The full book is to be published as an open-source book, meaning it won’t be copyright-protected and will be given away for free. This replicates the way music was distributed in the first 1,800 years of Christianity. I fully expect this collection will have a major impact on Catholic liturgy all over the English-speaking world, and it fits perfectly with the new Missal translation.
What do you say to parish music directors who think that prescribed music for the Mass takes away from their artistic freedom?

In some ways, Catholicism in general takes away from our freedom to believe and do whatever we want, but there is another sense in which the framework itself frees us to do what is right, true, and beautiful. Many art historians have looked back to see that it is not untethered freedom that has given rise to great art but rather creativity within constraints. Think of the Mass settings of the Renaissance and Classical periods. Many of the great secular composers are best known for their settings of Requiem Masses or operas with a pre-set story. Artists craved a framework to work within; it is this framework that causes an exit from the ego, which is probably the beginning of truly lasting contributions to art.

There is also the need for music at Mass to unify the purposes of the gathered community. That cannot happen if the music is all about individual preferences. Notice how even four people in a moving car cannot agree on which radio station should be played. If we leave the choice solely to individual preferences, the result will be chaos. We need to use music that draws us out of ourselves and into a higher realm that unifies us. The chant tradition provides this. It is a third way, beyond liberal and conservative hymn choices.


What do you say to people who think that ”contemporary” or rock music is necessary to attract young people to Mass?

So far as I can tell, the only people who really argue this way are old people. It’s true that plenty of young people are not interested in true liturgical music, but those same people are not interested in Catholicism either. How do we draw people to the faith? By lying about it and substituting false teaching? I don’t think so. The faith draws people when it is not ashamed of itself and when it has the ring of truth.

It is the same with liturgical music. Church music uses free rhythm that always points upwards in the same way that incense is always rising. This assists our prayer. Secular styles of music, in contrast, use rhythms that elicit temporal thoughts and emotions. Rock music points to nothing outside of itself, so it does not belong anywhere near the liturgy.

We are living in times of transition, and young people seem to know this even more than older people. I don’t think there is any doubt where that transition is headed: People are discovering the sacred music tradition. If you look around at the Catholic music world, you quickly find that this is where the interest and energy is. This is the future.

Register correspondent Trent Beattie writes from Seattle, Washington.

Lest anyone think that this is just one man’s opinion on Sacred Music, I direct you to:  SACROSANCTUM CONCILIUM, in particular  # 116

116. The Church acknowledges Gregorian chant as specially suited to the Roman liturgy: therefore, other things being equal, it should be given pride of place in liturgical services.

But other kinds of sacred music, especially polyphony, are by no means excluded from liturgical celebrations, so long as they accord with the spirit of the liturgical action, as laid down in Art. 30.


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